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the Connection Paradox

par·a·dox
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noun
a seemingly absurd or self-contradictory statement or proposition that when investigated or explained may prove to be well founded or true.


Please allow me to set the stage

We have Never in the history of mankind had available greater opprotunity

We have Never in the history of mankind had more opportunity to matter more

Yes we Hustle, Grind, Hack, we interrupt, over and over and oh yes over again

Sigh 🙁

“With great power, comes great responsibility.”​ – Voltaire

I understand that being true, being generous and being empathetic isn’t as appealing in a video on facebook as Hustle and grind but I will place my bets on the long arc and the end game and that truly seeking to show up every day contributing something of value “for others” will win out.

I am a eternal optimist so I have no choice

I guess it all starts with a decision we need to make that will dictate all steps, turns and decisions to arrive- Where do we want this to go?

Business- Do we want to be a major player in major market? Someplace in between? or are we totally happy with a fingerprint personal relationship with everyone we create our change for?

* and there is no wrong answer – only being untruthful to yourself

Personal- Do we want the possessions? Riches? or do we simply desire “enough”?  Enough to be free of spirit? There is no wrong answer just not being Truthful to yourself.

I do believe we waste on what matters little most of our lives. The great Stoics spoke at length on this very topic.

I realize more and more how much we shine spotlights on ourselves all for nothing but to torment ourselves.

The greatest advice I can provide my daughter as she grows is take action in life, do your best to get comfortable trying! Ask questions and listen- Listen and never seek to be the authority- embrace being the student.

In my career spanning almost 25 years I see so much choice it paralyzes

I see at the core what has always worked best

Genuine Caring

Genuine Emapthy

Genuine Generosity

simply a genuine desire to develop relationships with those we seek to serve

simply to create “Friends” and in creating a friend we create someone who would as Seth Godin says “would miss you if you were gone” – IF you didn’t show up tomorrow or the next day, No matter if on Facebook, Instagram, a weekly podcast or the local deli- would I miss you- would I look at my phone and be upset, would I grab the door and be sad it was closed- That is why we are doing this isn’t it after all?

To be for someone we cannot be for everyone

guess what- I get it- That is scary

scary because we might fail

scary because people will realize we don’t have all the answers- the map

but here is the thing- no one does!

All we can do is choose and show up

and when we fail (and we will)

we get to do it again

It is what we signed up for

so STOP seeking a magic bullet

and STOP worrying you will fail

Instead strive to Matter…..to someone …you have a choice …we always do

 

 

 

 

When their is no wrong answer

Society tells me what success “looks like”

Society tells me how a successful entrepreneur dresses

Society tells me how a successful entrepreneur lives

what he drives

what occupies his free time and pursuits

The internal narrative that is our true DNA is in a lifelong struggle

the battle between what our self wants and what it believes we need

many many times these do not sync

For me , a wide eyed dreamer this has become very obvious

Obvious in setting goals, in what my laser focus is locked in on

for me it is not about material items, possessions

for me it is about Freedom, Experiences, Passion

the problem is that does not always fit the hole of what is reality

So what to do? Soldier on? Hustle? well to Hustle for something that does not contain the potential to dyanmicaly bring me closer to DREAMS is futile isn’t it?

Wow , this is exploding in my mind! Its NOT about jockeying another owners horse to victory

Thats NOT LIFE CHANGING

How many owners can I watch  ruin a tremendous  opportunity?

A business is the creators own Oasis, a Utopia, where all the rules are based upon what I Matters most to the creator. Period.

The business can be spectacularly Small yet incredibly large

I am different I guess however I love the nimbleness of the small, being able to make decisions without a week of worthless meetings, calls arguments

I love personal connection, with all partners on the journey, such a deep connection that leaves a virtual “fingerprint” on everything I do

Just because the connectivity of 2017 can allow us to reach the entire world does not mean we need to matter to the entire world.

not only that it is impossible to appeal to everyone and still be absolutely important as air to “someone”

I believe deeply in what artist Kevin Kelly explained in his blog post that started my stepping out of the Matrix

1,000 True fans

I also cling dearly to Derek Sivers manifesto blog post regarding “Opportunity”

Hell Yeah or NO

I am proud to be part of a community through Seth Godins #AltMBA that truly empowers leaning forward always or as we term it to #SHIP to push past #lizardbrain #theResistance

Nothing Wrong with having standards

so where does that leave me at 45 years young and more motivated than ever?

 

What is Utopia?

Utopia for me is doing work that matters

All things equal my Goals are to afford the ability for my Wife to be able to not work

for us to be able to complete the dreams we have for our happy home,

for my wife to pursue her passions

for me?

to call the shots on my brand that is in everything we do dedicated to someone,

to own a property in the city that houses my personal passion

Cafe Firenze, a place where walking through the threshold transport one to my citta i adore, true #GustoItaliano

my office , a cherry wood booth in the back corner, dimly lit, beautiful yet simplistic.

Utopia is having a business that performs without me.

I am unessential to daily operations

Utopia is traveling with my family back to Italia twice per year

Utopia is clarity to be #selfaware of who exactly I am

not to kid myself

not to be insecure in my shortcomings either

to embrace them,

and to also push all 100% in on my strengths, passionately, tenaciously, lovingly everyday

1>o  and to remember the fact that makes the elderly seem wise

that it is always our #Legacy that matters not the currency

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Why I LOVE the edge

The “thing” about what they leave out

the things they avoid telling us

they say things to uplift

they say things to mislead

they live on building false hopes

false hopes that crumble when tested

They tell you you can eat whatever you want and still attain your target body

Not True

They tell you that you can undue years of neglecting your health with a couple capsules

Not True

They tell you a $9.99 juice a day can replace developing a taste for wholesome foods

Not True

They tell you a Organic seal on a fruit from South America means more nutrition inside that that local farms “un certified” fruit

Not True

 

Always telling you what they think will get a short term approval, sale, endorsement, vote

and Unfortunately they leave out the piece, the thing, the magic …WORK…..EFFORT…EXECUTION….INTENSITY…

There is a great way I can personally explain this

In training I have always been a disciple of the Arthur Jones High Intensity school of bodybuilding

The sexy parts you see in magazines, HIT Training- massive muscles in minutes, one set to “Failure”, train for muscle in 30 minutes or less

WOW, 1 set to “failure”

So appealing, since the average person REALLY has a grip on what this entails…They do NOT

What it means, What it looks like, I will video the way it looks

Effort, Intensity, the juicy bits they purposely leave out

Its found in a bucket your puking in because you cannot breathe another breath

Its found in literally not being able to even more that bar another inch

its where the Juicy Bits are

In training

In life

In it all

they leave out what most always Trumps talent- WORK, EXECUTION, TENACITY its nice to talk MED (minimum effective dose)

BUT that only matters once you set the standard of EFFORT

Then its a Force Multiplier

Then is lightning  #mecca1BOOM!

Equity

 

The equity in a property resulting from labor invested in improvements that increase its value; also : the labor so invested (Sweat Equity)

tribe


It is closing in on 3:00 in the AM

It is the investment I am making

Its not capital I have to commit

Its a different type of currency, one that we each have IF we develop the drive necessary

Its often evenings passed out at a desk, table or sofa

Its time away from “My Job”

Its time to develop my personal brand

after all isn’t that the real dilemma

we often trap ourselves in overworking our job

and neglecting our #Brand

for me its about “Reverse Engineering my #Goals”

ALL of them

-Personal

-Professional

ALL…What is the Big Vision ,

Who is it for?

What is my Value Proposition?

and am I self-aware enough to go all in?

For me , T2 its been a real internal battle to release myself from the Matrix

To do something beyond the scope of what I have always done

Its scary but also invigorating

Its about finding a way to deliver Value to a specific Tribe

about Caring and Engaging them because They matter to me

Its about Defining this framework and once defined , once the lane is clear, Shifting into 6th gear, mashing the pedal and GO GO GO

The greatest gift in life I feel is the ability to Focus on delivering value that is needed and embracing #work #Hustle #outworkingeveryone #Dothework

Im Closer than yesterday…Still not there…The Hustle is REAL..

Worlds BEST

“Greed is good. Greed is right, greed works. Greed clarifies, cuts through, and captures the essence of the evolutionary spirit.” Gordon Gekko


Sounds Powerful, but is it correct? Is it responsible?

More is seemingly in the modern era always infinitely better

If you are going to strive for more Ill venture to say you won’t the Worlds Best in any of the measures that make the ranks of #Remarkable

Maybe its a “old world” or “European” #Mindset

Its exactly what seperates

It is

What makes us really really shine

Its feeling so entranced by a real Story of integrity, uncompromising attitude, Do it right mindset

Its getting geeked up about knowing the origins of a Sicilian Extra Virgin Olive oil from a Artisanal grower limited to numbered bottles

Its Pizzeria Beddia “Worlds Best”

As a aside- please see that Joe Beddia @Pizzacamp is living the #altMBA dream

Pizzeria Beddia Website

Its always about JUST ENOUGH

because its about being WORLDS BEST and goes what WORLDS BEST DON’T SCALE!

Joes model- Finest ingredients period

Artists passion for ONE THING

no credit cards

no call in orders

noon delivery

Open till sold out ( usually within minutes!)

and guess what to everyone who is pissed off when then cannot get one of his beautiful creations? TOO BAD, IF IT MEANS ENOUGH FOR WORLDS BEST- COME WAIT IN LINE!

otherwise its NOT FOR YOU

Its the real Antithesis of MASS

and thats what we Ruckus Makers NEED!