No FEAR….we all have seen the bumper stickers and Tshirts. It is a empowering statement however I am only now at 44 years of age beginning to truly address fear with a educated and rational mindset. As author Carol Dweck Phd illuminated, with a Growth Mindset.
Speaking for myself I have allowed the stowaway passenger of “anxiety” on my life’s voyage for far too long. The greatest fact to consider is that Anxiety by definition is living and enduring fears before they happen and in many instances when they actually never will occur. We put ourselves into what we believe to be the helpless state unnecessarily. Speaking for myself rarely is this outcome realistic. These are conditioned responses we put ourselves through. They arise from outside, from upbringing, and schooling. This is why I am on but one mission with being a new parent. To provide a realistic and balanced influence on my little girl. The greatest gift I can bestow upon her is a Growth Mindset that allows her to understand that life is a journey in which we evolve and learn and ultimately nothing is “about us or against us”.
Being that facing anxiety and fear is the subject of this post and that we are in the last week of lent I will bring up a bit of Stoic enlightenment that I have found through the writings of Seneca.
“Set aside a certain number of days, during which you shall be content with the scantiest and cheapest fare, with course and rough dress, saying to yourself the while: ‘Is this the condition that I feared?’” – Seneca
See I believe that often
1. We fear what will never come- the absolute worst and take the toll by “living these ills”
2. We are stronger than we have allowed ourselves to believe. It’s enslavement to tech, luxury and vice. All not integral to true happiness.
Be well today and may God bless you all